The Fear

What is the engine that moves us? What makes us happy? Or plants from another angle what prevents us from achieving our dreams? Why we are not as happy as we want? Sure we will have all these philosophical questions raised on occasion, and probably also possess our particular response to each one of them. It's possible. Even I firmly believe that should be well, however it is common that the only thing we have is our particular way of ignoring these issues. It is easier, no doubt. When life presents a dilemma that forces us to choose, almost always usually opt for the most comfortable option for the less committed, which requires less involvement and effort. I would say it is a natural or instinctive tendency to believe and want what is best for us, though often not the case at all. Experience showed that usually more convenient and appropriate elections are the first that come to mind, we usually discard them automatically. But of course, its effectiveness is counterbalanced by the fact of being laborious and uncomfortable, so just a shortcut that will lead to the same goal.

Or not? Although we are not too aware of this, many of us have a propensity to deny the best chance and boycott our dreams, projects, or even thoughts. There are many factors that can determine to what extent such a thing happens and it would be too extensive to cover here. Our circumstances are the obstacles that determines to what extent we are able to distinguish clearly what is the best option. But whatever the reason we stop doing what corresponds to the situation, hides a reality that always eludes: fear, the real key to our behavior. So, fear is the tool that derails our intentions and that makes us err in choosing the right choice. And not only is the wrong use we make of it, it is also the instrument used by others to us, which occurs from all instances.

I have seen the fear in a matter that I know too well: Sexual abuse in childhood. That fear that paralyzes us in childhood and adulthood crept up to extend and control our existence. It may seem that I opted for a somewhat extreme example, but in reality the operation is always the same, terrible as they are the circumstances in which it operates on fear. When the destination is no longer in your hands excuses are wearing all sorts of arguments for not doing what needs to be done. Hence the questions arise like: Why am I going to talk now about what happened in my childhood? It is better (more comfortable) to keep the secret forever. So we avoid giving any explanation. But the right answer is not that, it is best to talk because that is what you will benefit. Perhaps not an immediate way, but the best things in life take time. What then prevents us from doing the right thing? The fear. And the excuse that is adorned with all sorts of arguments to hide that fear can be, for example, the pain they inflict on others, when in reality, what is in the background is the fear that causes us to face our reality as it is known by all.

The pain exists, we know, and it is our duty to rid the pain to all humanity. It is absurd, the pain is part of our existence and the obsession to avoid at any cost, paradoxically, more pain is what we will produce long term. It's not about inflicting pain free, which would lead to other problems, but to follow the natural course of events and the needs we all have. What is at stake is the courage to be able to tell the truth and face the consequences. We have ours and theirs others. This is our work and the way to a happier existence, in contrast to the silence and secrecy. And that goes for everyone. Fear also addresses other aspects of our lives, beyond personal or family conflicts I have described. Without going any further, in our working lives, to give another example, we may keep clinging to our job for fear of being fired and end up worse than we are, when maybe we could succeed elsewhere or would perfectly able to climb that our current job.

It is a matter of attitude. Or handle the fear or let us handle it. If we focus on another aspect of our reality, and now I'm thinking in politics, we see the same thing happens on a large scale, particularly at election time. In this scenario we can see a complete and blatant abuse of fear as a tool to convince undecided voters more or less standard. One need only listen a while to see that any political party will speak of their excellence if elected, the same will not tire of reminding us how damaging and dangerous it can be for our interests to win the other party. Any student of history and prehistory of the human being knows that fear is and has been a necessary element for our survival. Without fear we would have perhaps already extinct. But fear is also a powerful tool that we handle for our own benefit, otherwise you will not miss those who do it for us. Although it is a sensitive and could hurt more than a sensitivity, ultimate fear they have managed from the beginning of time almost all religions.

This is a case in which each makes his choice and the arguments that could be used for other things do not work on these. Faith and reason can not cope, live in different planes. I've always found that the trend is more on "going to be good? not to go to hell "I'm going to be good? to go to heaven. http://www.jmontane.es