Are you or expect to be happy?

Have you ever wondered what it means to be happy? Perhaps there are people who may be swift and decisive response to this complex question. But I'm sure that will raise other question, which is not easy to answer without questioning before many issues surrounding their lives, be they of intrinsic or extrinsic character.

Surely many people prefer to live without more, not stopping to explore what goes on inside, despite feelings such as sadness, disappointment, pain, fear, anger or anxiety, are disrupting their lives.

But, why, man often resigned to suffer, to the point that increasingly, medical consultations are full of patients somatize a number of mental disorders?

It would be interesting to question why, in a developed society like ours full of material comforts, where basic needs are covered for most people, there are people who can not be happy and live emotionally healthy?

Well, as we should begin to ask, what thought patterns govern our mind?, Where do we learn? and Why are often dysfunctional thoughts? The patterns of thought and behavior are learned from birth, from the first emotional contact with our parents. The mother is the first-emotional bond, but gradually, the child begins to socialize in the environment, and other caregivers, educate him and guidelines. All these factors and primarily the messages received by the child about how others see them, their self-concept is formed and then self-esteem. A properly functioning rational and emotional level in adulthood is the result of a strong self-esteem.

If we look at a child, we can see the picture of happiness, that state in which perhaps we should all stay forever. If the child from birth have their basic needs met, you receive the proper affection, proper educational guidelines, then begins to grow with functional mental patterns that allow you to simply "be."

If unfortunately, do not start to build a good self-esteem, as the child grows, his mind will pollute messages conditioned to think that using some unsuitable social prototypes, damages, and other internal conditions, the result of dysfunctional family environment where there grown up.

Adults in general use patterns of thought that reveal our ego, our experiences, whether positive or negative, in addition to everything learned in the society we have grown. Therefore, we are unable most of the time to operate without external conditioning. That is not often know how to accept reality as it is.

Consequently, and taking up the theme of happiness, many people question their happiness, unhappy, and blame it on external circumstances. That is, be happy like a utopia that can only be partly achieved if one day the world around them changes. They are happy and expect to be one day without realizing that happiness is within themselves, and their position in life. Perhaps everything can be easier, as it only takes one time for reflection and internalization.

Have you ever wondered if there is pain in your life, why not try to stop resisting? Perhaps you realize that your mind resists and what it does is cause pain. Many of the feelings that I have listed above are the result of the position we take in life. Seem to prefer living in the past or the future, and that brings us, sadness, anxiety, fear, insecurity, anger, embarrassment, etc ...

Would not it be much healthier focus on the present and enjoy every moment what life is allowing us to experience? Do not make us feel better to live with gratitude, joy, enthusiasm, ...?

It is in our ability to look around and find something new all the time, value the small things of everyday life.

And if ... well try to open our eyes to realize that unhappiness does not come from reality, but our desires and misconceptions we have in our mind?

To be happy, may not have to do anything, just watch the kids. We need to "be" be "in the present," be like them. But first we must get rid of misconceptions that blind us to reality. Sometimes it can be simple, at other times as is appropriate to ask for professional help. But if we can raise awareness and make small changes, surely happiness will be within our reach.

As a final thought, I would like to refer in a brief statement to the beautiful and wise words of Pablo Neruda ....



... "He dies slowly who avoids a passion, who does not turn the table when is unhappy, who does not risk the certain for the uncertain to go behind a dream Dies slowly ... who does not travel, who does not read, who does not listen to music, who does not find grace in himself. prevent death in soft quotas, remembering that being alive requires an effort far greater than the simple fact of breathing, ... Only the burning patience will we get a splendid HAPPINESS.



Carmen García Muñoz