How to get the divorce is not affecting our children

Sometimes a couple's separation is inevitable and is not always clear about the effects it will have on our children. Each of the parties will address the different stages at their own pace and manner, however, it is always important to take a little break and think that children are going through a difficult time understanding. Hence it is vital for development to help them get out of this situation better.

At this point, the psychotherapist Yesica Perez Silva, says that parents are an example for their children, thus having "a healthy relationship with the former partner can reduce the negative effects on children during and after divorce," he says.

"The children more than ever need the love, understanding, care and support of their parents," he says.

For its part, the child psychologist Judith Wallerstein, says that when separation occurs, the children experience a kind of mourning the loss of family stability.

The also author of "And the children ... what?" It adds that children can experience different feelings such as guilt, helplessness, sadness, anger, fear and uncertainty about the situation.

"Not all kids act the same way, which depends primarily on their personal characteristics and how they are handling the situation of separation or divorce," she adds.

Similarly Wallerstein says that it is essential to take into account the age and temperament of each child so you know how to address it better. The attitude of parents and how to address their children is very important and should be done in an open, clear and honest. As a parent, do not hide your feelings towards them.

"Maintaining a frozen face and taut by the father, the feelings of small blocks, need to know that it is good to express your feelings," says the author.

The Mexican Institute of the couple (IMP) offers some recommendations for how to deal with the child on the subject of divorce among parents:

Explain what happens with patience, sincerity and in a manner appropriate to the understanding of their age. Do not include details dolorosos.Hazles know that divorce is a matter of adults and that they are not the culprits. Above all is clear to them that will queriendo.Dile can talk about their feelings and ask questions. Note that you need to know that their parents listen. As a parent, you must be attentive to the feelings of your children and open communication, which will help to overcome this event and realize that their parents love is unconditional.

With information from: terra.com.mx